Denial of Death.

If the partner becomes God they can just as easily become the Devil; the reason is not far to seek…if you find the ideal love and try to make it the sole judge of good and bad in yourself, the measure of your strivings, you become simply the reflex of another person.

You lose yourself in the other, just as obedient children lose themselves in the family. No wonder the dependency, whether of the god or the slave in the relationship, carries with it so much underlying resentment.

Denial of Death-Ernest Becker