Take the average man who has to stage in his own way the life drama of his own worth and significance. As a youth he , like everyone else, feels that deep down he has a special talent, an indefinable but real something to contribute to the richness and success of life in the universe.
But, like almost everyone else, he doesn’t seem to hit on the unfolding of this special something; his life takes on the character of a series of accidents and encounters that carry him along, willy-nilly, into new experiences and responsibilities. Career, marriage, family, approaching old age- all these happen to him, he doesn’t command them. Instead of his staging the drama of his own significance, he himself is staged, programmed by the standard scenario laid down by his society.
Angel in Armor- Ernest Becker